Often the only real deception in our lives is that we allow ourselves to believe our own thoughts. So much of the time we allow ourselves to imagine what we want our lives to be like but really have no idea of what it is we truly, honestly want. We allow our thoughts to be moulded by expectations of others around us, or what we perceive their expectations to be. Sometimes they are a product of experiences from the past with such thoughts as ‘this is what I’ve always wanted so I must still want it, right?’ Wrong. As we grow and evolve as our own person in our own truth our needs, wants, desires, requirements, dreams all grow and evolve with us. Just because we have desperately wanted something in the past no longer means that we want it now. Maybe it is time to unpack some of the old thoughts and allow the new to come, discard old dreams and welcome the new.
Sometimes we work so hard at finding who we really are that we overlook the obvious, what is there right before our eyes. We are who we are right at this particular moment in time, not who we were last year, last month or even yesterday. Being mindful and acknowledging ourselves for who we are in the present is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. When we dream we serve ourselves much better if our dreams are of what we wish to allow into our lives at this moment, not revisit the dreams of yesterday and reshape them, build a whole new concept, one that is compatible with who we are right now.
Others come into our lives regularly. Some very fleetingly – maybe a smiling stranger in the street, a friendly fellow driver waving as he passes down the highway or a child who runs smack bang into you while caught up in the wonder of the world around them. Some stay for a while, like a workmate or fellow student or class mate, even in some cases friends. Some stay for a lifetime or if you believe in past lives, sometimes many lifetimes. We must always be grateful for what these people have brought to us, whether it be a lesson in patience, humility, determination, self-belief, love, happiness, pain and the list goes on.
Some come into our lives with an instant connection. They strip us bare of our protective shrouds, the thoughts we have encased ourselves in and reveal what others might never see. At times this can also be what we have never seen in ourselves. Some of what is uncovered may not be to our liking, while other aspects of ourselves we may be quite amazed by and in awe of. The gift that these people offer to us is the most precious of all. It is the gift of love, of seeing ourselves as they see us. This too may be an illusion, however, for a time or for eternity it is pure and very real. If nurtured and honoured as it is intended it could well become our ‘eyes and soul wide open eternity’.
Until next time…. stay safe and stay true to you!
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